Actress Huang Lei said: “The best education for children is that father loves mother.†The family is not a reasonable place, and many family chores are indiscriminate. It is difficult for families to be harmonious when they always try to argue by reason. According to the latest survey, the number of children with parents who quarreled with their parents was 32% in the family and 30% in divorced families. The number of families in the family is 19%. Compared with divorce, children's psychological experience of arguing with their parents is even more pronounced and the direct damage they suffer is greater.
Parents' quarrels are common and understandable to adults, but for children, the heavens are falling, and his sense of security will be greatly affected.
The survey found that compared with divorce, children’s psychological experience of arguing with their parents was more pronounced and the direct harm suffered was greater. What kind of bad influence does the child experience when he or she lives in an environment where parents often quarrel and fight?
Infancy
There is an auditory response on the first day of the baby’s birth, and the baby’s sense of hearing, alertness, and pain are felt. When a baby hears a loud noise from his parents, his feelings are painful, his body will become stiff, he will shrink his nerves, and he will seal up and protect himself. Infancy often suffers from the stimulation of painful feelings, which will inevitably affect the baby's auditory and visual development. In the future, sensory integration disorder will occur. Due to the poor development of visual-motor coordination, it will result in poor performance of the exam.
Early childhood
Children in their early childhood see their parents arguing and fighting. They feel nervous. Because of their low level of cognition, children cannot understand why their parents attack each other like an enemy. He cannot distinguish who is right from wrong, and he does not want to identify who is bad. Some children think that they are not good and they are bad children. Therefore, they have psychological burdens that can cause physiological reactions such as asthma, upper respiratory tract infection, and reduced immune function. If one of the parents is an impulsive, emotionally uncontrolled person, it can also cause the child to stay wet for a long time because of fright. If the mother is struck by violence, the child will feel extremely insecure, because his mother who protects the weak life is not insured by himself, how can he “live� Instinctively afraid, the child will shrink in the kindergarten, not gregarious, fear and The separation of mothers and the desire to actively participate in activities are low. Among children, various mental and behavioral developments appear to be relatively backward.
Childhood
Parents often quarrel with their parents during children's lives, which can bring shame to children. If parents are arguing about his affairs, the child will feel very uncomfortable, feel that he is a bad boy, have a nightmare, be inferior to other children, and have a hard time in class. If parents have been divorced in front of their children, it would be like hanging a sword on the child's head. His life seems to be waiting for the sword to fall and he really lives in fear and worry. Such a child will learn. No thoughts, no interest in doing anything, the performance is getting worse, a low sense of self-esteem, which led to the teacher's low evaluation of the blow, into a vicious circle, will have an impact on his future personality growth.
A 17-year psychological study in the United States found that when couples are in conflict, arguing may be more beneficial to physical and mental health, and the death rate of anger-suffering couples is five times that of couples who express anger. Quarrels are the feelings and needs of couples to express their inner feelings. They are also explorations of their own and their counterparts' hearts. Quarreling is an art. Both husbands and wives need to grasp the purpose of the quarrel and the laws of expression.
So, how to reduce the harm that couples quarrel to children? Some netizens said that parents must be forgiving for their children's health. Some netizens said that “the child’s personality must be patiently trained by the parents, otherwise it will be too late if it is formed. Parents are The children's enlightenment teachers must pay attention to these issues in the future so that children can grow up happy in a family-friendly and harmonious environment.
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